Sex Bloggers Calendar

Looks like 2009 was the only year the calendar got together. They bought a domain for it but the content up there now is just spam. No calendar of any kind.

Source: New York City Sex Bloggers 2009 Calendar

I think this could be pulled together again. I could find sex bloggers (not restricted to New York) to contribute images so it would mainly be publishing and distribution I’d need to figure out.

Not something which should be free either. I’d need twelve bloggers, including myself, and each of them could have a share of the money. Sex bloggers need to pay the rent too. I’ve thought about it since finding this link but… I don’t think I can take on a project like this. There are too many bits and pieces and things which could go wrong.

Bad Girl Bloggers

The Bad Girl Bloggers seem to have retired. The name is getting passed around as a sex blogger award but the site has no posts since 2011. Maybe that’s just as well. I get tired with the attitude that women who talk about sex are bad girls.

On one hand, it’s kind of fun to think of yourself as wicked, in a sexy way. I don’t like being judged that way however. As if any woman who thinks about sex, likes sex, or has sex is doing something wrong. You can’t be a good girl sex blogger. Nice girls don’t write a sex blog.

So every woman writing a sex blog must be a bad, wicked creature. Except, we’re not. Sex bloggers are just people.

bad girl bloggersSource: Bad Girl Bloggers

Be an Off Centre Sex Blogger

No one can stand reading about just sex all the time. More importantly for me, I can’t just write about sex, BDSM and fetishes all the time. It gets dull and monotonous. Sex bloggers need to be more than sex bloggers, they need to write about sex in an off centre way.

Sex bloggers need to write about other things, have off shoot interests to keep things interesting and give them space to write about other interests and passions. You can usually find a way to connect just about anything to sex, but that isn’t enough.

One reason so many sex blogs fizzle and die is the lack of interest in maintaining a site which is so one dimensional and one sided. So, don’t be afraid to bring in other things you love and care about. Make yourself more interesting, more readable and more human too.

Bring your own personality into your sex blog. If you love sparkly things, like holiday jewelry, post about something great you found. I used to and then I pinned myself into a bit of a corner here, got tired of it and stopped posting for awhile. That’s what happens when you write for your readers and stop bringing yourself into it.

You need to write what you love, or at least get excited about in one way or another.

corset and lilies

 

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