What Would you Write to Win the Bad Sex in Fiction Award?

Put some thought into what makes a really bad sex scene. Don’t make it too unbelievable, something no one would ever have written, but how bad can you go?

Twisted arms and legs, body parts which move in odd ways or seem to multiply? Words that don’t suit the mood, aggravate the mood or completely bypass the mood and make you want to read something with fluffy bunnies instead?

Write about sex in a bad, messed up way. Play with it.
Idea source: Bad Sex in Fiction Award 2015: What are they and does Morrissey have a shot? | News | Culture | The Independent

His knuckle rubbed her pussy button, giving her a hard on. Once she was really wet, dripping like a leaky faucet, he dived into her crotch shoving deep, mining her with his throbbing, purple pussy eater.

It doesn’t need to be long. In cases like this, short is a good thing. It is fun to write, without the pressure of trying to make it good.

Male Slave Art is Too Hard to Find

Why is it to hard to find male submissive art? Not the art made for men, but the male submissive art made for women, straight women who like submissive men. Each time I look for art I try new combinations of words. I still hope (or expect) I will one day find just the right phrase and there will be a stream of great, sexy submissive males in art. There never are. Most of the time I search for men or male and get women (not Dom women but sub women). This begins the disappointment and annoyance. Most of the other images will also be geared to men (either gay men or men who want to see FemDom art where the male is the victim rather than the strong, sexy submissive).

Maybe few women Doms are able to draw. I don’t draw very well at all myself. So I can understand how this could be. Still, I just feel sure there are great places to find the art I want. So I keep looking.

The image below was from a gay men’s roleplay group. I like it. I would like this image even more if he were wearing eyeglasses. That little extra touch of both humanity and vulnerability, would have been sexier.

 

Source: Lost Love ~Master and Slave Roleplay| Gaia Guilds | Gaia Online

Kinky Sex Tips For Curious Girls

Source: 7 Kinky Sex Tips For Curious Vanilla Girls – The Frisky

  • Initiate a kink conversation
  • Start off slow
  • Do some erotic brainstorming
  • Tantalize your partner’s senses
  • Be creative
  • Use safe words
  • Have a post-kink debrief

Not the best list. To start with, initiating a conversation about sex (kinky sex) would be a big deal.  How many non-kinky women are going to jump right in that way? Not many.

Leave some hints, without being too subtle. But, only IF this is a guy you can really trust to try something kinky with. Women starting out as submissive need to educate themselves about kinks, fetishes and BDSM before letting him lead you blindly. A safe word is not enough. By the time things get to needing a safe word it’s already gone too far. Start slow is the best advice in this list. The second best is to have a talk afterwards. Even if you feel silly or shy, especially if you feel upset, talk about it within the hour. Talk about it again later when your feelings have sorted themselves out a bit. Talk again before you try anything else.

Be creative, in the way of taking things slow. Adapt the stuff you have seen in movies, magazines, online into something mild and saner. No matter how into it you think you are (or he says he is) take time to find out how you really feel when you are actually in the situation. It’s all a lot different when it’s real. Plus, you have to live with it, have memories of it.

For submissive women – don’t assume anyone claiming to be a dominant actually knows what they are doing. Don’t trust someone too easily. Submission is giving up control but not being a door mat and having no power or voice at all.

For dominant women – don’t be led into doing what he wants. Discover what you want and do things your own way. Domming can get very boring if you really aren’t interested in what you’re doing.

Keep each other safe along the way. Communicate with each other and find kinky communities locally and/ or online to get real advice from.