I worry that women get caught in a sex trap. How we think of ourselves and how men see us.
When you see an image like this (below) you get an impression of that woman, what to expect from her, who she is, how she thinks, etc. But, how often is this how women are portrayed, generally. This image is an exception, a part of the whole and yet it is taken as our worth, our identity too. It seems men decide this is what a woman should be because this is what they want of women.
So by selling ourselves we sell ourselves short.
Images such as this keep the stereotype (for lack of a better word) growing. Everything we do as Mothers, professional career women, and just as women in general is taken down a notch due to our worth being seen as sexual rather than a woman.
You can call me a feminist if you like. If that makes you feel I’m just another feminist you want to discount the opinions of. But, I’m not especially feminist. I don’t pin a lot of labels on myself because they limit you. A label sticks to you and then you try to keep the label by changing to suit it. I’d rather just be who I am and evolve as I go along.
Most people cling to labels. I think they are a short cut, taking the easy way out instead of actually thinking and making a decision.
Women are labelled, a lot.
The woman in the photo above will be labelled, quickly.
She could be any woman taking off her underwear. She could be a wife. She could be a Mother of children. She is likely a daughter to someone, maybe a sister. She could be a lawyer, an engineer, a teacher, a real estate agent, a waitress, etc. But, few people will think of any of that when they look at this picture.
Do sex workers, catering to men’s needs, sell all women short?
I’m not a religious fanatic so my point of view is not biased that way. I just think women will never be able to advance as long as women are for sale (or rent as the case may be) for sex. Why is sex so important? Sex is plastered all over our culture and media. Look at advertising, for an easy example. When sex sells why is it a woman in the picture almost every time. Are men so hideous they can’t be used to sell cars?
Overall, I don’t think women will ever find equal ground in our society because we are seen as sexual tools and that image is sold over and over again. As women we often buy into it ourselves.