The real question is – How do Wookies type with all that hair on their fingers? Once you get past that go ahead and read the questions and answers Kilted Wookie posted for this distinguished award in blogging neatness. To follow are the questions I answered when it was my turn and last – the questions and nominees I’ve passed this award along to.
- How did you come across your blogging persona?
- What inspired you to write your first blog?
- What is your greatest unfulfilled fantasy/dream?
- What has blogging taught you about yourself?
- How many “real life” people know you are a blogger and how did it make you feel when you discovered they knew?
- Lights on or off?
- What do you normally wear in bed?
How did you come across your blogging persona?
It’s not really a persona. Somewhere between being contrary, curious and painfully honest I am just being myself. But, we are all full of ourselves, lots of niches and unexpected surprises. So, it’s not too hard to be myself and yet be different from who I am when I’m not thinking about relationships, men or anything related.
The other reason I don’t try to keep up a persona: it’s just too complicated! I know people who blog with several personas over several sites in different niches. I just don’t want to make my brain work that hard to figure out who I am.
What inspired you to write your first blog?
My first blog was on something other than GeoCities (which Yahoo bought out) back in 1996. I loved the free writing, the derring-do of doing anything as long as you could understand enough HTML to do it!
On top of that, it was liberating to write and talk about sex, kinks and fetishes. I didn’t blog about that until a bit later. Back then I was having a great time as an IRC diva. I met a lot of the early online BDSMer’s. I did things online that people don’t seem to do online any more. Or, not nearly as well. In those early days the men were more fun and didn’t always offer you photos of their penis.
I began writing about my IRC adventures just for fun. We played a lot of truth or dare and we played live BDSM scenes and events too. I was involved in BDSM auctions as the seller, buyer and the auctioneer – I was up there being sold too. It was a great group and I wish I hadn’t lost touch with all of them. But.. Dommed if you do; Dommed if you don’t. Years later I wrote for the red light zone at BackWash.com but the whole network has been gone for years now. That was another good community.
What is your greatest unfulfilled fantasy/dream?
The simple wish for someone to grow old with. I think that is the hardest fantasy to fulfill.
What has blogging taught you about yourself?
I don’t really have an answer for that. Blogging (writing) has gotten me through rough times in my life. Did I learn anything? Seems not, I keep doing the same stuff over again and expecting something to be different. But, I don’t think I’m insane, just contrary.
I guess I have learned that pushing yourself to be perfect and make everyone else content is just a way to burn yourself out. I still haven’t learned it well enough to stop trying to be perfect. With blogging you really do have to write for yourself, no matter what all the SEO guru regurgitate in all their blogs.
How many “real life” people know you are a blogger and how did it make you feel when you discovered they knew?
They all know because I told them. It’s not a deep, dark secret. I even told them I write adult content (fiction and non-fiction). Recently (this year) it came up in conversation and my family were surprised I write about sex. Then they remembered they had forgotten about it. So, not much drama there.
I don’t introduce myself as a sex blogger. I decide when to pop it into the conversation or if to mention it at all.
Weirder than the blogging thing is having posted your photo in your Fetlife profile then have a man you don’t know approach you in the grocery store in town – and he knows your name!
Lights on or off?
You can’t turn the lights off in the day. It doesn’t matter to me. Lights off is nice because I can take off my eye glasses and not see any better or worse in the dark. Lights on is good – less chance of poking him in the eye, etc.
What do you normally wear in bed?
I love long nightgowns. Some are soft cotton, some are silky, slinky satin but the longer the better, with sleeves too. I like something luxurious that will sway along with me when I walk. Assorted colours: deep red, dark pink, jewel tones of green and blue, soft yellow, orange… etc.
I know women who wear underwear and bras to bed, I’ve never done that. It’s enough to wear all that stuff day to day. The evenings are my time to feel decadent, romantic like a woman from long ago, but with the modern conveniences of indoor plumbing.
On to my own nominations and questions forthwith:
Gracie at Sex Kitten @GraciePassette
Submissive Guy Comics @SGCposts
A Bad Gentleman @abadgentleman
A Slip of a Girl @SlipOfAGirl
Rose at Ruined Boudoir @RuinedBoudoir
- What colours do you like to wear to feel sexy, and why?
- You have an unlimited budget and no figure flaws to consider – describe a sexy outfit you’d like to wear.
- Even if you only walk from the shower to your bedroom… what do you like about walking around nude?
- Is sex more mental or physical for you, how/ why?
- What is/ was the best thing about your favourite sexual partner so far?
- Did you tell him or her at the time, or ever?