Looking for a way to make some extra money and think you could take on being a paid Domme? Let’s call it a Dominatrix. That usually seems more like the professional name for someone in the business of providing adult services.
How to Look Like a Dominatrix
There is an expected fashion when you get paid to act the role of Dominatrix.
- Leather, latex or something designer the colour is most often black and the clothes are tight fitting. Corsets are in fashion.
- Heels, high heels whether on thigh-high boots or shoes with spike heels, the Dominatrix does not wear comfortable shoes.
- Accessorize with garter belts, fishnet stockings, a studded collar, long elbow length gloves.
- Hairstyles are likely pulled back from your face, out of the way and looking strict and severe.
- Carry the tools of the trade, even if you don’t actually use them. A whip, chains and such make good extras.
How to Act Like a Dominatrix
Be aware of your presentation, how you stand, move and speak. Body language and posture can work in your favour. How you speak and what you say are also important. Be self aware. Study yourself in a mirror to see which poses and facial expressions work best for you.
Act confident and in charge. You aren’t actually in charge because you are playing a role for him. But, you need to give him the feeling that you are in charge and he is not. Confidence is easier to fake when you stand tall have a plan and a road map to follow.
The plan is important. You do not want to find yourself with a client expecting an hour spent serving you but you run out of things to do with him in the first ten minutes. Plan for more activities than you will need. You are also responsible for keeping him (and yourself) safe from harm. You need to know what you are doing. If he wants a fetish or kink you don’t know enough about be honest rather than taking things from pain pleasure to just plain pain. A safe word is not enough. You’re a professional, paid to know what you are doing, or at least make sure your client does not get more than he asked for.
Know your client’s needs and expectations before you begin. Also, know what you will need, tools and experience, to perform for the client. Know how far to go and what a real stop is versus a stop that is just his part of the game. Clients may want to beg you to stop but have you continue on as if you really were teasing, tormenting or torturing for your own amusement.
A Dominatrix does not have sex with her clients. Sex is not part of the performance/ service.
Learn the skills you need. Know how to use a whip before you pull one out and flick it around in the presence of a client. Know how to spank using anything from a hairbrush to your own hand. You are the professional and expected to have the knowledge to perform.
Pay attention to the stereotypes because you will be performing to the standards of your client and he (or she) has very likely built up a scenario based entirely on the stereotypical Dominatrix, kinks and fetishes.