Adult Breastfeeding

It’s true that I do have some odd interests. Some I would not admit to, ever. Some I would consider doing with the right person. Not all sexual things, actually most things are not about sex at all. It’s just on my mind at the moment.

Let’s talk about John for a moment. We met about 2 months ago now, all contact through email. At first it was cause I was working on the business proposal and we had just met anyway. Then he was sick, then he needed to sort out his own life: find another job, move and his computer was eaten by a virus. All of these are reasonalble things, it’s just bad timing, right. I’m getting echos in my head of Todd and Eric. When men end relationships by ignoring you and hoping you will go away, it rubs off. I don’t really think John is hoping I will go away but… I don’t know for sure. I could be wrong. I was wrong before, twice. I don’t want to be the only one hanging on again. It sucks. It’s a huge blow to the ego, the pride, the grrl who is still in here and thinks there is a chance she can find someone (even still).

So, I have been sad and lonely, even more than before. Missing a man I’ve never met and who may actually have dumped me. I can’t be sure. He seemed to be feeling things for me, as I was/ am feeling things for him.

So, I began reading the personals at Craigslist again. Just out of interest, some kind of hobby I could do online seeing as I am routinely glued to this computer day after day.

I read an ad from a guy who was looking for a woman into induced lactation. I read it a couple of times, curious. I didn’t find much online about it. You may wonder why I even looked, but I was mainly curious, somewhat sexally stimulated too. That would be quite a lot of dedicated breast sucking after all. In the end I think that was the real turn on for me. I investigated it, I emailed the man with the ad. But, the practical side of adult breastfeeding means you become a slave to your own boobs. You need to be there and accounted for every four hours. Can you imagine living like that? If you had a baby it would be do-able. You’d need to be there as a babysitter as well as a baby feeder. But to do that for an adult would be a huge cramp in your style.

For one thing, just think of the last time you were out somewhere. Were you gone more than four hours? I take my nephew out to the movies and book store shopping, we spend more than four hours out together. If I take a course at the local college I would be gone for the day. It is interesting all the things we do when you sort them into time slots of four hours.

So, the breastfeeding relationship won’t be up and coming for me. I will stick with ordinary breast worship. But I want it now. I’m not willing to keep being patient. I’ve been a good grrl a long time. It’s wearing a bit thin around the edges.

Anyway, just thought I’d share. Keeps me from being completely boring.

Writing Erotica

For the Adult BackWash column this evening/ early morning, I wrote about writing erotica. Here for your viewing pleasure…

Writing is always taking a chance, putting yourself out there, on a limb. I think that is even more so when you are writing fiction with fewer guides to track yourself and maintain your anonymity. You are putting more of yourself on paper than you think at the time, if you’re doing a good job. Especially when you write about sex. It’s already a taboo, hushed up subject. So, to write about your personal sex life or your thoughts about the whole thing in general is kind of setting yourself up for a fall each time. You are exposing yourself to the judgment of the masses. Not so different from getting into a car every day and hoping no one will smash into you. We trust the other drivers to be self interested enough to avoid accidents. But, when you are writing, the self interest is all on the writer’s side. The reader is a complete unknown, out to please themselves.

Anyway, I decided to write about writing erotica. Most of the rules are the same when it comes to punctuation, grammar, spelling all that proper rules of the page sort of thing. I think the biggest challenge for writing erotica is keeping it from being boring. As if sex could be boring, right? Well, it can. Try reading the same thing a hundred times. He puts it in her, she likes it, they come. There, that’s a sex scene. Was it good for you?

While you wipe yourself down…

When a story has no real plot or character development, just mechanical sex with a lot of naughty words and phrases tossed in it becomes more stroke fiction than erotic fiction. This might please a reader who just wants to jack off but someone who wants to actually become aroused and linger in arousal leading to foreplay, will be disappointed and likely frustrated too.

Another unique challenge to writing about sex, the name calling. What do you call it? My personal preference is cock for the penis. It has a blend of cuteness and crudeness that I seem to favour. As far as the vagina, I’ve sort of settled on pussy for lack of anything better. I don’t like it though. If something else comes along I’ll be glad to switch. There are so many variations for breasts, vagina, penis, butt, sex, come and so on. As the writer you have to find words you can live with and words your readers won’t laugh at or not understand.

Avoid 10 inch cocks, breasts like watermelons, anything that will seem improbable to your readers. Errors of mechanics are just that, things that easily believed. You can’t have a character doing something that he/ she couldn’t physically do. That is where really proofreading your work comes in. See the action in your head as you read it over. Make sure it’s clear who is doing what to whom.

Erotic writing tends to use a lot of metaphors and similes. Things like “her pussy was wetter than the whole of Lake Ontario”. I’d personally choose not to use that one, though I did just make it up on the spot. (Don’t blame someone else). You want to keep your metaphors as part of the action, don’t make them stand out and drag readers out of the story and into your writing. The idea is to keep them fully involved in the action, not in your sensational writing. Also, use phrases that don’t sound gross or silly.

Break up your sentences and paragraphs. The breaks are the spots where the reader breathes and moves onto the next part of the action/ plot. You can also use short sentences to spike the action. A short sentence gets attention and stands out. But don’t go overboard. Any writing should have transitional sentences at the end of one paragraph and the start of the next, it keeps things flowing without awkward pauses while the reader catches up with you.

Don’t forget to use dialogue. This also breaks up the story and keeps it interesting. Reading solid text is boring. Just pick up a text book and see how erotic you feel. Reading solid chunks of text takes patience. When the action is moving fast your sentences and paragraphs should be short. Using dialogue is one way to keep things short and moving.

Sex is a sensual thing, it involves the five senses: touch, sight, smell, sound and taste. Include them in your writing. It brings things to life for the reader. Bringing senses into play draws them into the scene and the ongoing action.

Yet again, character development and motivation. Even erotica should have some point or reason. Why are your characters interested in each other? What are they thinking? How do they look? Who are they? When is all this happening? Give some purpose to the sex. Develop the erotica into a storyline, make things happen besides two bodies bumping together.

At the end, you need a conclusion, something to mark the end, to let the reader know it’s over and (hopefully) something to leave them wanting more. Articles and stories without some kind of conclusion aren’t artsy or dramatic, just frustrating. Remember, the point of erotica is for everyone (reader and writer) to have a good time.