Category: writing
Erotica Writers are Nice Girls Too
| August 16, 2012 | Posted by Laura Brown under writing |
This was originally posted to HubPages. However, they unpublished it (and several other posts) because it was too adult. I have relocated the post here and you can bet I’m not really happy with HubPages today.
I Write Adult Non-Fiction and Erotica
I’ve written erotica and non-fiction adult content too. It’s not as dramatic as people want to think. The worst reaction I had was from my Mother and a sister when they found out. But, once I showed them what I was writing they mellowed out about it.
I’ve written erotica and sold it too. I also write non-fiction for adult sites. It’s an interesting market. I get ideas and experience which work well for me when I’m writing in other markets, venues and genres too.
There is a big difference in writing erotica versus plain, pure pornography. One of the differences is that porn sells a lot easier then gets passed around online without any credit to the original author. Erotica writing is better in the long run, even for making money, because anyone who wants to hire you based on what you have written, can actually find you.
Adult Content Warning for your Blog
You can easily add an adult content warning to your WordPress blog. It’s even a free plugin.
How to Know What’s Erotic and What’s Not
You can read about the distinction between erotica and pornography on any site which accepts erotica from writers. Most have drawn a line where they feel one becomes the other.
Basically, erotica has a story, there may be romance but either way it’s sensual and takes time to tell a story. There is more to the writing than intercourse. Erotica isn’t hard core. Erotica isn’t about making love necessarily, but it’s more than just a quickie. When you write erotica there’s foreplay and a story to go along with the quickie.
Adult Writing Prompts
- Flash Fiction Friday
- Wicked Wednesday
- Tempting Tuesday
- F##k Me Friday (Archives)
- Wanton Wednesday (Archives)
- Wank Wednesday (Archives)
I like Writing for Adult Blogs
I began writing on the adult side ten years ago when I wrote for Adult BackWash. That site is now gone. But, for me, it all started when BackWash needed more writers for the adult side of the site. It was the side of the site where the writers got to write anything, within reason (but there were very few limits imposed). Plus, it was red. I love the colour red. So I wrote a regular adult column which I called Bait and Switch. It was fun. Most of the time.
There were times when I really didn’t feel like reviewing adult sites to add to the links. Or there were times I didn’t have anything new to say. But, that happens no matter what genre you write.
The difference with adult content is that you have the frigid versus hooker issue. People expect women writing adult content are pretty free and wild and having sex at least once every day/ night. (Men feel this way more than women readers, but most of your readers are men). If you aren’t busy with boyfriends, toys, and more, you can feel you have nothing to write about. But, you’re wrong. You can be a nice, good girl type and still write about romance, dating, intimacy and issues with all three of them.
Any woman can write erotica. It’s about your attitude more than your experience, or lack of it.
Resources for Adult Content and Erotica Writers
- Packing Heat: Erotica Writing Tips and Techniques
- Dark Erotica (May need to be logged into Blogger)
- The Erotic Writer
- Sex Blogger Co-op » e[lust]
- Publish and Be Damned: Resources: Erotica Writers on Erotic Fiction
- Writing and Selling Erotic Fiction
- Romance Literature Genres from Porn to Erotic Romance
- I Write Women’s Erotica
- How to Write Educational Erotica
- Thinking About Writing Erotica?
- The Trouble with Literary Erotica
Tempting Tuesday #2
| August 14, 2012 | Posted by Laura Brown under Tempting Tuesday, writing |
Tempting Tuesday - The second writing prompt will be…
First dates. Tomorrow I have a first date and I’ve got all my usual hang ups, fears and doubts packed up nice and tidy. I’m hoping for good things but not expecting the world. Well, not even… I’m hoping for everything but not putting on all the pressure of admitting I really want all that much.
Write a short story (very short, less than 100 words) about a first date.
Unfortunate Title Choice
| March 30, 2012 | Posted by Laura Brown under writing |
I guess Cindy’s daughter has strange bathroom habits… or someone thought this would be funny… or someone didn’t proofread.
Found on Betty Confidential. The link was to a secondary site, a link on Betty Confidential. But, I thought any site that would print this unfortunate title choice was not worth clicking on.
Women’s Magazines are Not Thriving
| March 25, 2012 | Posted by thatgrrl under women stuff, writing |
Aside from terrible cover lines, stories that underestimate the intelligence of their readers, and predictable fashion spreads that present an extremely narrow idea of female beauty, what’s wrong with today’s ladymags?
- Jezebel: Nobody is Buying Ladymags these Days
That about says it all really. Mainly, stories that have nothing real or unique. That’s why I seldom pick up any magazines now. I still feel a loyalty to the few Canadian magazines like (Canadian Living and Chatelaine) and, I admit, Martha Stewart’s magazine almost always gets me to at least pick it up from the grocery store aisle.
I used to buy the US women’s magazines too. The covers with great colours, decorating ideas and articles about how to improve so many things… but the articles are still the same, the covers are still great and tempting, but not tempting enough. The content inside just doesn’t have enough to offer. It’s very repetitive. Plus, what do they have that I can’t find online?
I don’t like seeing the end, or the troubles, for the glossy magazines. They used to have an elegance, a lustre for life. I don’t find that same feeling from many websites or blogs. You can’t pick up a blog at the grocery store, stick it in your purse and then have the treat of flipping through the pages later when you’ve got your coffee, maybe even a chocolate bar or something else kind of yummy and not really good for you.
If you’re in the UK Today… Eroticon
| March 3, 2012 | Posted by thatgrrl under erotica, writing |
You could be at Eroticon today. Hope they have a great turn out. I would have gone if it weren’t so far away. Plus, I just wandered into the link this afternoon.
Am I a Mutant Freak?
| August 3, 2011 | Posted by thatgrrl under Adult BackWash, writing |
Original post from Adult BackWash, when I wrote a weekly column called Bait and Switch: Thursday May 30, 2002
I set up this column with Ringman, the Backwash founder, in secrecy. In fact, I’ve been around Backwash about a year on and off. I write another column over in original Backwash. But, I didn’t feel comfortable coming out about my BDSM side. There are a lot of stereotypes for women. Things a nice girl does and doesn’t do. Nice girls get treated like nice girls and those other girls, well, they’re just sluts aren’t they?
At one point in my life I thought I was going to die a virgin. I was over 30 when I had sex with a real live human male. I actually took my own cherry with a vibrator I bought in an adult store and I was in my later 20′s then. Even that had to happen when I was thousands of miles away from home.
Not that my Mother was/ is someone prim and proper. Heck, I was her second pregnancy and she was 20 when I was born. The first pregnancy was aborted. If it hadn’t been for that kid’s being aborted I wouldn’t be here today. Mom told me that she didn’t want to abort a second baby so she married my Dad. My Dad is a jerk most of the time, I’ve always thought she should have run while she could.
Anyway, that’s all getting way off the topic. I grew up as a nice girl in a middle class neighborhood in the suburbs of a very large city. Sex wasn’t something taboo but we weren’t about to open up a bordello for a bit of extra income either. You get the idea.
I was a virgin for so long because I didn’t meet any guy I wanted to get naked with. You are pretty vulnerable at that point. My Dad spent a lot of years heaping emotional abuse on me, mainly about how I looked. That didn’t make me feel better about myself and I often loaded up on goodies to make up for it. So, by the time I was 20 I was chubby, had less than perfect skin and any time I might have a bit of self esteem it would be blown to bits when ever I looked at movies, magazines and all the other places “they” tell us we should all look like air brushed photos of skeletal women.
So, dropping my drawers was pretty much the last thing I wanted to do to attract the opposite sex. I think I choose my husband as my first (and only) lover because he was someone who felt a lot like I did. We were both virgins. But, if anyone asks me what the hottest sex I have ever had was, that was it! To be touched so reverently, cautiously, it made me feel like a goddess- priceless, valued and very sexy. Of course, that’s all dust in the wind now.
Anyway, am I a mutant freak? Does anyone else have kinky fantasies or better yet, kinky sex? Does it turn you on to think of being seduced? Do you have rape fantasies? Do you think it would be fun to tie up a strong man and have your way with him? Or do you really, secretly just want to be Daddy’s little girl?
