Not your Angel – The Celebutaunt

People ask (or think and don’t ask) what kind of person becomes a FemDom? What people don’t know may hurt them.

There are more types of FemDoms (Dommes, Mistresses, Female Dominants, etc.) than there are titles for. Each woman can have her own style, her own agenda and her own way to feel about what she does.

I’m asking some Dommes (my preferred word) about their style of dominating. First … Not your Angel.

Not your Angel aka Trailer Trash Angel – Q and A

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What kind of Domme are you, what do you call your style of Domming?

I am simply a naturally superior female, leading & educating men regarding their low status via humiliation, rejection, domination, pain — and good old cash.

Since I am naturally superior, it’s simple for Me. However, it can be quite complicated and uncomfortable for the little pigs.

How do you dress or behave to suit your style of Domming?trailer-trash-angel-Leopard-Twitter

I wear what I want, when I want. I could wear baggy sweats and still make the boys sweat — but often I wear skimpy southern things that accentuate My body, My gypsy spirit. And, sure, that’s often what amplifies loser fantasies too.

What are the men/ clients like who suit your style?

The men who are aware that they are inferior — not only to Me, but to all women — are generally the pigs that follow Me & My instructions.

What helps you to feel the mood, scene or situation when Domming?

Eager, willing, and honest submission puts Me in the mood. I don’t tolerate poser-pigs who think this is all some sort of game where they can pretend to be a slave or whatever, yet do not truly submit. If they won’t do any of the work, if they try to run scams to avoid paying My fees, if they don’t follow My rules, I am incredibly turned off. And that sort of stink will stick to those pigs for a long, LONG time.

I do push limits, so I can accept and understand some resistance from time to time, from task to task. But I do not educate, instruct, inflict, or in any way play for free.

I do not tolerate posers. I banish and block them without a second thought.

How did you become a Dom?

Let’s see… I started out as a Brat, matured into to a Gold Digger, and found Myself graduating to the next levels of Femdom & Findom. It was simply a natural progression for Me. (Longer version of the story here.)

Which title: FemDom, Domme, Mistress, Madame, or another do you prefer?

I prefer the term The Celebutaunt – one part celebrity, one part taunt. But that’s often too sophisticated for these men who prefer the typical “Mistress” or “Goddess” titles. *weary eyeball rolls*

Is Domming professional only or do you also Dom in your personal relationships?

I am naturally dominant & know My value, so yeah, I Domme everywhere.

Every.

Where.

Why Don’t More Women Dom Men?

CaptureI think there would be far more women as BDSM Dominants if women understood what it really is. The male version is just a fantasy, their fantasy. The porn version is fiction, created for men who like the fantasy. So, women don’t really see what Domming is, just the FemDom fiction.

A woman who likes to Dom is not mean, vicious or nasty. It’s not about causing harm or taking out your frustrations. It’s about power, fun, creativity, romance and sensuality, among other things. I like to focus on the creativity and sensuality. (That makes it fun for me).

How many women would love to have control of their man if they really did have control? Tell him what you want, how you want it and when you want it… and he obeys. It works for the men who are submissive too.

There is no guarantee of sex with BDSM. Sex isn’t used as a reward or punishment. In Dominance and submission he doesn’t obey in order to get sex. He doesn’t obey because you command him, like a drill sergeant. He doesn’t obey because you’re wearing tight black leather and high heels. It’s not about worshipping women either, though some like to add that in. He obeys because he wants to, this is what he wants. He wants to obey. He wants to be a good boy. He wants to be happy, with you.

Have you ever told a man he’s a “good boy”? Watch his face. Those are powerful words. As a Dominant woman you can get a lot of mileage out of “good boy”. Play with it sometime. You don’t have to try anything else, just slip a “good boy” into the conversation. You can say it softly, romantically, sensually. Or, say it with power, energy and a little forcefulness.

Subtle, Simple Ways for Women to Dip into Domination

  • Hold his hand. Take his hand as you cross the street. Lead him by the hand and walk in front of him.
  • Order for him. You don’t need to order him around. Try ordering for him at a restaurant before he lets the server know what he wants.
  • Dress him. Tell him what you want him to wear next time you go out together. Pick out clothes that look good on him and tell him so if he objects.
  • Kiss him first. Pick a moment when it won’t lead to anything else. Just a quick, impulsive kiss, or a fondle, caress, tickle…
  • Ask him to touch you and tell him how to do it right (as you want to be touched). Anything from rubbing your shoulders, warming your hands, or stroking your back. It’s up to you.
  • Accept thanks and compliments from him. Don’t be modest or turn away positive comments. Reward him with a smile instead and thank him too.

None of these things are Earth shattering. But, you can get a feeling for being in power in your relationship. You can see how fun it is and start to want more. Also, as you take charge you begin to ask for more, expect more and then it’s just a step farther to telling him you’re going to try something new… like blindfolding him or not letting him touch you with his hands while you have your own way with him.

For women who really enjoy Domination it’s not about wearing tight costumes, carrying a whip or being a bitch. Those can be elements of it, if that’s what you actually want. But, BDSM can be all about sensuality and pleasure. As a Dominant woman you just do it YOUR way. The hard part is sticking to doing it your way and not letting things slip into giving him what he wants while you wait for it to be over. There is nothing so dull and boring as being a McDomme, a woman doing what he wants, his way and wishing you had brought along a good book for yourself.

Slavery Bracelet Rules

Use this to make your own rules, if you like the idea of a slavery bracelet for your man.

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The bracelet rules for the male:

  1. Once it’s on your wrist, you are not allowed to take it off. And there are no exceptions. She is in charge now, and she is the only one who can take it off.

If you’ll take it off, it means you broke a contract you had with her, and she can decide on the punishment, and in addition she can claim your slavery for a double period of time.

  1. As long as it’s on his wrist, you are her slave, and she is your owner. The status of your relationship or marriage has changed, and it will stay like this until she removes the bracelet.
  1. At the moment, you are wearing the bracelet, you must bow down to the floor and kiss her feet/shoes until she decides it’s enough. By doing it, you admit that the status has change, and you are under her control.
  1. During the time the bracelet is on you, you are obligated to accept her punishments. Once she calls you for punishment you cannot refuse. She is allowed to use the whip or leather belt to punish you as much as she wants.

Rules for the goddess:

  1. You, and only you have the right to take the bracelet off and release him.
  2. Before you put the bracelet, make sure that you are both know how long will be the period.

In case you both did not discuss how long he will be under your control, and for some reason the bracelet is on. The time will be the same as the last period.

 

  1. If you decide that it will be for 14 days. You should release him after 14 days and don’t try to use your power to extend the time since he cannot take off the bracelet by himself, and he is depended on you to be released.
  1. You cannot extend the period as punishment. If he was not obedient, punish him as much as you like. But do not extend the period because of it
  1. You can extend the period only on one exception. If he missed a day, for some reason, you entitle to extend it in two days for every one day he missed.

For example: you both decided on 21 days.   During the period, he needed to stay at work later one day, and he was sick and could not serve you for two days.  He missed three days total and as compensation you have the right to extend the period in six days (two days for every day he missed). There will be no argument about it from his side.

Make sure to force these rules. He must respect these rules and the sacredness of the slavery bracelet.

Source: Goddess Tip : The slavery bracelet

Image source: Instructables – with instructions for making a simple slave bracelet.