|March 24, 2012||Posted by Laura Brown under erotica, Relationships, Romance|
Make Love Not Porn – A great idea for a site.
|March 3, 2012||Posted by thatgrrl under erotica, writing|
You could be at Eroticon today. Hope they have a great turn out. I would have gone if it weren’t so far away. Plus, I just wandered into the link this afternoon.
|February 18, 2012||Posted by thatgrrl under erotica, Female Body, safe sex, Wickedness|
|Makes me think of pink bubblegum.|
I confess… I have a mild addiction to window shopping at sex toy sites. I mostly look at vibrators and dildos. I like to see which ones really, really, really tempt me. Today I liked this one, from Eden Fantasys. It also comes in purple, if you prefer a more royal colour than pretty pink.
What do you look for in a dildo/ vibrator? One thing I usually avoid are anything that needs batteries. I don’t have much luck with vibrators really. They are either too hard and unbending or they just move all the wrong ways at the wrong time. That’s why I look at dildos more often. I had thought vibrators are for women and dildos were for anal sex. So I never used to look at them very much. Later, as I read more, like the information Eden Fantasys has for shoppers/ buyers, I understood a dildo was something that didn’t use a battery.
I do like ridges, ribs, something to give the dildo texture. I’ve heard some women have little interest in penetration. I’m not that way. I like the feeling of being entered. I also like being touched a lot in all the right places – and I don’t mean the pussy. It’s so much better if you spend time on other areas first, letting it all build up.
I don’t know how the skin of the pink bendie dildo will feel on my skin. But, I’m interested in reading about the tip of it, that’s where it has the vibrations. I’d like to explore the sensation of slipping it over my nipples, the tender skin of my thighs and then my clit. Last of all I’d slip it inside of myself, very slowly.
See how nice it is to window shop, secretly, in the privacy of your own bedroom?
Thanks to Eden Fantasys for the fantasy tonight.
|July 12, 2011||Posted by thatgrrl under Adult BackWash, erotica, writing|
Originally posted to Adult BackWash: Tuesday April 08, 2003
When you write erotica the mechanics of sex are interesting. The what can go where and when becomes as much your focus as the actual story. For instance, you wouldn’t want to write that you left the male submissive tied to a tree wearing nothing but a pair of shoes and then write that his cock was hard, pushing his panties out in front of him. Things have to follow along in order, logical order. It gets more complicated in a sex scene where two bodies are closer and all the arms and legs get in the way.
It’s hard to keep watching for where the fingers are. Luckily people tend to have two arms and all those fingers. It makes it so much easier to have that second hand wandering after you leave the first one at a crucial point. Still, there is the matter of reach to be considered. Two arms attached to the same body can’t reach from head to toe if the mouth in engaged on a nipple. It just won’t work.
Then there is the whole general positioning thing. If both are facing each other you have all those body parts in good reach. But, turn one away and one person has a limited reach. It would be impossible to stand turned away from someone and reach back and grab a nipple. Well, not impossible but not easy and likely a strategically placed mirror would be a big help.
Which brings me to another tricky part, toys and equipment. You can’t write about ball gags if you’ve never (at least) seen one. If you’ve never seen a leather mask how can you write about it’s use? If you don’t know how a whip is used can you write about whipping someone in a safe, sane, consensual way?
The mechanics of sex can definitely backfire on you in erotica. That’s why it’s so good to stick with what you know. Of course, you can also have all the fun of getting to know more, trying new things and exploring your options.
|May 25, 2011||Posted by thatgrrl under Adult BackWash, erotica, writing|
Originally posted to Adult BackWash: Saturday August 23, 2003
Writing is always taking a chance, putting yourself out there, on a limb. I think that is even more so when you are writing fiction with fewer guides to track yourself and maintain your anonymity. You are putting more of yourself on paper than you think at the time, if you’re doing a good job. Especially when you write about sex. It’s already a taboo, hushed up subject. So, to write about your personal sex life or your thoughts about the whole thing in general is kind of setting yourself up for a fall each time. You are exposing yourself to the judgment of the masses. Not so different from getting into a car every day and hoping no one will smash into you. We trust the other drivers to be self interested enough to avoid accidents. But, when you are writing, the self interest is all on the writer’s side. The reader is a complete unknown, out to please themselves.
Anyway, I decided to write about writing erotica. Most of the rules are the same when it comes to punctuation, grammar, spelling all that proper rules of the page sort of thing. I think the biggest challenge for writing erotica is keeping it from being boring. As if sex could be boring, right? Well, it can. Try reading the same thing a hundred times. He puts it in her, she likes it, they come. There, that’s a sex scene. Was it good for you?
While you wipe yourself down…
When a story has no real plot or character development, just mechanical sex with a lot of naughty words and phrases tossed in it becomes more stroke fiction than erotic fiction. This might please a reader who just wants to jack off but someone who wants to actually become aroused and linger in arousal leading to foreplay, will be disappointed and likely frustrated too.
Another unique challenge to writing about sex, the name calling. What do you call it? My personal preference is cock for the penis. It has a blend of cuteness and crudeness that I seem to favour. As far as the vagina, I’ve sort of settled on pussy for lack of anything better. I don’t like it though. If something else comes along I’ll be glad to switch. There are so many variations for breasts, vagina, penis, butt, sex, come and so on. As the writer you have to find words you can live with and words your readers won’t laugh at or not understand.
Avoid 10 inch cocks, breasts like watermelons, anything that will seem improbable to your readers. Errors of mechanics are just that, things that are not easily believed. You can’t have a character doing something that he/ she couldn’t physically do. That is where really proofreading your work comes in. See the action in your head as you read it over. Make sure it’s clear who is doing what to whom.
Erotic writing tends to use a lot of metaphors and similes. Things like “her pussy was wetter than the whole of Lake Ontario”. I’d personally choose not to use that one, though I did just make it up on the spot. (Don’t blame someone else). You want to keep your metaphors as part of the action, don’t make them stand out and drag readers out of the story and into your writing. The idea is to keep them fully involved in the action, not in your sensational writing. Also, use phrases that don’t sound gross or silly.
Break up your sentences and paragraphs. The breaks are the spots where the reader breathes and moves onto the next part of the action/ plot. You can also use short sentences to spike the action. A short sentence gets attention and stands out. But don’t go overboard. Any writing should have transitional sentences at the end of one paragraph and the start of the next, it keeps things flowing without awkward pauses while the reader catches up with you.
Don’t forget to use dialogue. This also breaks up the story and keeps it interesting. Reading solid text is boring. Just pick up a text book and see how erotic you feel. Reading solid chunks of text takes patience. When the action is moving fast your sentences and paragraphs should be short. Using dialogue is one way to keep things short and moving.
Sex is a sensual thing, it involves the five senses: touch, sight, smell, sound and taste. Include them in your writing. It brings things to life for the reader. Bringing senses into play draws them into the scene and the ongoing action.
Yet again, character development and motivation. Even erotica should have some point or reason. Why are your characters interested in each other? What are they thinking? How do they look? Who are they? When is all this happening? Give some purpose to the sex. Develop the erotica into a storyline, make things happen besides two bodies bumping together.
At the end, you need a conclusion, something to mark the end, to let the reader know it’s over and (hopefully) something to leave them wanting more. Articles and stories without some kind of conclusion aren’t artsy or dramatic, just frustrating. Remember, the point of erotica is for everyone (reader and writer) to have a good time.