Category: Bondage
Spider Rope Bondage
| May 14, 2013 | Posted by Laura Brown under Bondage |
This would take a very long time to get out of.
Man in Peril
| December 9, 2012 | Posted by Laura Brown under Bondage, men in peril, Wickedness |
I don’t have a handy crocodile pit, but I like this photo. Men in peril.
Found on Facebook where I can never track down the original link any more.
Get Your Boy Man Cuffs
| August 15, 2012 | Posted by Laura Brown under Bondage |
Found on Spices for Love.
Pornaments
| December 14, 2011 | Posted by thatgrrl under BDSM, Bondage |
Pornaments. Originally found on Trendhunter.
Disappointing how little there is for FemDom/ Domme versus MaleDom and the standard Barbie doll types for men in general. What also bugged me was the Barbie doll types were posed with fat old men (Santa Claus) even a belly and man boobs showing. Why not Mrs. Claus, a woman on their level. But, not even one shows a woman, other than Barbie. (I don’t count the gingerbread couple any more than I count the teddy bear).
Bondage for Beginners
| June 25, 2011 | Posted by thatgrrl under Adult BackWash, BDSM, Bondage |
Originally posted to Adult BackWash: Friday February 27, 2004
Originally, I wrote this for someone who wanted ideas for getting started into BDSM. Mainly bondage as most people getting started aren’t really looking for the SM type of things. It’s a bit much to rush into something really hard core and you can’t go back and undo anything you regret later. So, my best advice is to take it slow. I wrote this to a guy, but it works for either partner, man or woman. Start discussing your thoughts and desires. Tell your partner why you want to do these things before you just suggest doing them. Why does the idea of bondage, spanking or some other fetish turn you on? If you’re lucky your lust will rub off on them. If not, you can try a moderated, more tame version if possible.
Get close physically at least once before you try anything BDSMish. Have some idea of what each of you are like sexually before you bring in that whole element. Use a ‘safe word’ and mean it. Don’t make a game out of it or use it to tease, etc. If the word is used it means someone is in panic mode and everything has to stop right then. Mostly talk and talk and talk about fantasies, things that scare or concern each of you. Don’t rush into some sub/ Dom thing. That should be an extra element not your focus. Just go slow and enjoy the ride.
Try bondage without bondage. Like, instead of tying her or yourself with rope have her hold onto the back of a chair or the sides of the bed. That way there is an escape open if one of you gets worried or needs a break to regroup.
When you feel ready, you can use real rope but don’t actually knot it. Leave it untied. Try handcuffs but don’t lock them and make sure you have a key where it won’t get lost in the sheets, the rug, whatever. Try timed bondage too. Freeze the key in an ice cube and run the cube over her body. When the cube finally melts she is set free.
Try a light spank as a surprise. Just one and see how it goes. If you’re both into it make it a bit harder or go for three light ones. Think of different positions too. Over the knee is one option, how about having her bend over the bed, or by the side of your desk, try new ideas. Just use your hand. That way you will both feel it. You need to have some idea of how hard you are spanking. Using an inanimate object leaves you guessing. You can’t rely on guessing when you could be hurting her and making the whole experience negative rather than fun and something she’s likely to want to do again.
Talk about what you want to do as you’re doing it. That is so sexy. To hear someone take charge and tell you what they’re going to do and how you are theirs to do it with. Do it with feeling though. The Dom is doing it to show love not to show he/ she is boss. Have a nickname just for your BDSM play, little one, minx, etc. Then when she hears it she will know you’re in THAT mode and it will put her into THAT mode too.
You don’t need toys and gear, most of it is brain work. Feelings and how you touch and not touch sometimes. Withholding a touch is a good way to build suspense. Bring in a new element and just let it be seen. Don’t even use it. For instance place a pair of handcuffs on the bedside table and hang the key on a string around your neck. Use sound effects too. There is something kind of sexy about the sound of a whip, for me. But I’d never want to be whipped or have some amateur with no clue attempt to play with one around me. Still, the sound could be recorded and played back at key moments.
It’s all about exploring and trying things to arouse and tempt your partner. Go for it, but play nice and don’t be a jerk. Men might find they like being submissive even though they think they have to be a Dom. Try switching. Women might find it a real turn on to suddenly be the one in charge. Make him do things your way and at your pace. Go for it.
Slave Collars
| June 16, 2011 | Posted by thatgrrl under BDSM, Bondage, Gorean, male submission |
This comes from Gorean Impressions, a post about collars and collaring from the typical Gore theme of the male Dom and female submissive. But, the ideas are about the same, just reversed.
Collars
Their are reasons for why a slave wears a collar:
1) Visibly designates a girl as slave
2) Impresses a girl’s slavery upon her, makes her more aware of her slavery
3) Identifies her Master
4) Makes it easier to leash her
5) Makes it easier to put her in various ties/restraints
6) Because it is beautiful
7) Because it pleases the Master to do soA collar is the most personal item that a slave may wear. It not only designates her as slave but it also is often enscribed with her owner’s name. A collar may be as simple as a piece of cloth of fiber and as intricate as gold with jewels upon it.
The collar, unlike the brand, is not permanent and may be changed within the same house or by the same Master or as the slave is sold from Master to Master (Tarnsman of Gor), just like the slave’s nick may be changed.
A slave’s collar often denotes her rank. Perhaps a lowly kettle slave may wear a fiber collar or at most an iron collar. A slave purely trained for pleasure may wear an enamelled collar of yellow or red or whatever color her owner sees fit to put her in. A love slave may even bare a collar encrustled or dangling with jewels. A punished slave may wear a collar with bells upon it so that her master may not find her ‘sneaking’ upon him.
“Where in Tharna,” I asked, “did you find Pleasure Slaves?” I had noted that the throats of the girls were encircled by silver collars.{Outlaw of Gor}
The last book of the series states that a slave should have the new collar put upon her throat before the old is taken off. This way the slave feels no sense of freedom, even if only for a few ihn.
I then fetched the collar, designed to resemble a state collar, from the flat leather box. I went behind her and locked it on her neck, above the Appanius collar. She now wore two collars. I then removed the Appanius collar from her neck. In this way there was no moment in which she was not in at least one collar.{Magicians of Gor, 358}
It is said that once the collar is off the girl is in fact free. She may be free for just the moment or she may be freed to become the Master’s Free Companion.
Different cities/regions are known to have their own style of collar. For instance the Turian collar is round and loose. The Bazi-style collar is wide, tapered towards the top, belled out at the bottom, and commonly inscribed and/or enameled with intricate designs and motifs which signify the Owner and/or the nature of the kajir.
The collars of the male slaves are often not lock collars. The collars are even hidden so that they may not see how numerous they really are.
Whether or not there were male slaves I could not well judge, for the collars would have been hidden by the gray robes. There is no distinctive garment for a male slave on Gor, since, as it is said, it is not well for them to discover how numerous they are. {Outlaw of Gor}
Types of Collars
Bazi style collar: a wide collar, tapered towards the top, belled out at the bottom, and commonly inscribed and/or enameled with intricate designs and motifs which signify the Owner and/or the nature of the kajir.
cord collar: made of cord fashioned from the rence plant it is worn by rencer slaves and carries a small disk to identify the owner.
dance collar: a collar to which light- weight (but effective) chain has been attached in order to set off the dancer.
fiber collar: a simple collar made only of cloth or fiber. (Raiders of Gor)
galley slave collar: a heavy collar often having a chain hanging from it; for use with galley slaves. (Raiders of Gor)
house collar: often portrayed the name of the house where the slave belonged to, the house normally bearing the name of the owner; often bearing a legend–for example ‘I am the property of the House of Cernus’; sometimes it would even say from which part of the house, such as the baths; sometimes even the cost for the use of the slave would be engraved into the metal of the collar; might even be just a chain with a plate on it. (Assassin of Gor)
iron collar: simply a collar made of iron; often hammered upon the slave’s neck; it is not meant to be a beautiful collar, instead it is often used as mere incitement for the slave to train and gain a more beautiful collar. (Assassin of Gor; Raiders of Gor)
ko-lar: Gorean word meaning slave collar; pronounced as ‘collar’; this term is not used often in the books, mostly the word ‘collar’ is used. (Slave Girl of Gor, page 80)
lock collar: A step above an ironed on collar; denoted sometimes as a ‘pretty collar.’ (Assassin of Gor)
message collar: high leather collar sewn closed about the slave’s neck; sewn within the leather of the collar will be a message. (Priest-Kings of Gor)
northern collar: a utilitarian sounding collar made of black iron with an iron ring to be used if a chain is attached. It is rivited around the neck of the bond-maid. (Marauders of Gor, page 85)
pen collar: not a typical locked collar, more a narroe band of iron, hammered on, with a number for slaves in the iron pens. (Assassin of Gor)
plank collar: two-piece board hinged at one end and capable of being locked at the other.
plate collar: simple hammered collar. (Raiders of Gor)shipping collar: a loose, generic colar worn by slaves when being shipped as cargo; a temporary collar showing that the slave girl is part of a cargo. (Explorers of Gor, page79)
state slave collar: has a certain color designating the city the slave is owned by; often greay; Ar’s state slaves wear grey. (Raiders of Gor; Assassin of Gor)
transport collar: collar with a metal tag attached listing destination or other vital information, to be used during transport of a slave.
Turian collar: round metal
wall collar: a slave is collared and chained to the wall (Assassin of Gor)
